Have you ever wondered how to tell if something was truly aligned for you or just a should? 

I’ve learnt just because you’re capable and can do something, it doesn’t mean you should or truly need to. 

I used to have something to prove. If I had a good idea I thought I should follow through and when I didn’t something was wrong with me. I constantly felt defeated. I finally realized it doesn’t make me less capable when I choose to say no. 

In fact, know it makes you wiser because you’re prioritizing and not spreading yourself so thin. 

I’ve been someone who was obsessed with people pleasing and always going out of my way not to truly feel the discomfort of saying no. I didn’t even realize that was my comfort zone for a long time. As I built awareness, I was able to see my patterns and start to show up differently for myself. I still get caught up at times but now I can see where I feel threads of attachment and need and misplace them. 

Rather than focusing outside of ourselves…it’s critical we choose to look inwards in these moments of opportunity. 

How can you choose yourself even more today? 

Another way you can show up for yourself is by following an aligned yes. Those subtle nudges guiding you towards your truest self. A knowing. Calling. You on your path. This is what allows for ease and flow in the most connected way.

There is a calmness, ease and flow with saying yes when it’s truly clear for you. And, there’s a loud discomfort, distress and disappointment when you say yes and don’t really mean it. 

What is a connected and subtle yes? 

It is a clear-minded, spiritually connected and congruent yes. It feels spacious, certain and quiet. 

The “subtle yes” is not the same as excitement, impulse, or external validation. It is a sense of resonance in your body and energy.

If you’re stuck, ungrounded and filled with noise you most likely won’t hear or feel the guidance and will come up with why now is not the time for you. Rather than judging yourself, it’s helpful to get curious, realigned and committed to yourself moving forward.

A clear no feels easy. Remember, saying no is just as important as where you’re investing your energy when you say yes. A no can also be a subtle yes. 

When you say yes but it’s not a soul-filled, clear yes often those times feel heavy, noisy and full of obligation and reasoning. Even when the logic is factual it doesn’t make it your highest choice. 

This is a journey of practicing and after a while you will feel very differently about how you make decisions. I used to be so indecisive and learning a new way to center myself, gain clarity and move with purpose made all the difference. I learned to trust myself and my higher self and I’d love the same for you. 

If you’re already doing this and up-leveling your practice, ask yourself: where else could I listen more?

I like to sit in silence after a few deep breaths and ask myself a question while I focus above my head at my crown chakra. Now I know based on my body response and whether I have a clear yes or not if I’m getting a true yes. 

If it’s unclear, I wait until I’m clear to make a decision. I do what honors my most authentic, inspired, connected and loving self. 

This is the art of listening for the subtle yes — the energetic, emotional, and somatic cues that tell you when something aligns with your flow, your values, and your spiritual path.

What does it look like?

·      A soft expansion in your chest or belly

·      A momentary calm or groundedness

·      A sense of relief, like coming into your highest self

·      Clarity without tension

·      A gentle forward motion rather than a push or jolt

While it’s often quiet — you in your knowing will be unmistakable once you learn to recognize it.

How the Subtle Yes Differs From a “Should”

A “should” often sounds like pressure. The energy is heavy, contracted, or scattered.

A “subtle yes,” on the other hand, feels:

         •        Supportive, not demanding

         •        Aligned, not draining

         •        True, not performative

         •        Rooted in choice, not fear

When you’re in flow, your decisions are made from your highest self, your authentic truth, not obligation.

Why Listening to the Subtle Yes Matters

When you start building your life around subtle yes’s (instead of other people’s expectations), everything becomes more effortless — not because life gets easier, but because your capacity, clarity and confidence expand.

Let’s check in if you’re choosing what’s truly most authentic for you: 

·      Where in your life are you currently acting from obligation instead of desire?

·      When was the last time you felt a true subtle yes? What did it feel like?

·      What physical sensations tell you something is right for you?

·      What contracts or dims your energy?

·      What are you afraid will happen if you honor your yes — or no?

·      What yes have you been ignoring that keeps whispering back to you?

Your flow isn’t found in massive life changes.

It’s built through all the tiny yes’s you honor each day — the ones only you can hear.

When you start listening for the subtle yes, you begin living from clarity, not confusion. From wholeness, not reaction. From your soul, not your conditioning.

And that is where true spiritual alignment begins

I invite you to focus on the practices and rituals that help you align with your subtle yes’ today and through the weekend. I’d love to hear from you what you notice. 

With love,

Laurin