Today’s Find Your Flow message is about resetting your nervous system so you can find your flow in the midst of change.

Have you ever slowly started to outgrow your life?

Have you ever seen or felt yourself through a situation and had it hit you just how much you’ve changed. Not in a dramatic, sudden way but in a quiet slow becoming kind of way. It may seem like all of a sudden this life that you once imagined and created, no longer fits who you are.

Maybe you keep trying to re-settle or make it work, yet there are soft whispers that this life isn’t quite fueling you anymore.

I know for me that subtle voice has been present for some time, but in the last few months it’s become louder and undeniable. And with that discomfort came clarity — and the alignment to actually make some big changes.

But what often comes right after clarity… is doubt and fear of the unknown. This is actually dysregulation. A natural desire to hold onto something certain. It’s our job to remember this isn’t the knowing that helped you create change. 

What’s your pattern? In the past? Currently? Is there a shift you’d like to make? 

It’s common for anxieties to build and questions stack. 

Is this really what I want?

Can I really do this?

Is this too much right now?

The most important question is: what will you do when these arise? 

Will you believe them, or dig deeper. 

Will you lean into your soul’s calling and knowing? Will you feel supported in the trust you have for yourself, your path and whatever it is you believe in? 

And this is where your ability to be present with yourself and settle your nervous system becomes everything. If you can’t tap into your parasympathetic and into rest and digest, you will spiral into survival. From this place, aligned decisions can feel wrong or uncertain. 

Your knowing may become more challenging to discern. 

Fear’s purpose is to survive.
Your soul’s purpose is to thrive.

A simple reset to come back into your flow:

1. Pause and notice
Are you tight or open? Rushed or grounded?
Your body will tell you before your mind does.

2. Focus on a breath pattern
One that can help you move into your heart center is a 3-4 breath. You inhale in 3 segments through your nose, and exhale in 4 segments out your both slowly. Even 3-4 minutes of this slower, deeper breath signals safety to your body. 

You don’t need a full practice — just a moment of intention.

3. Get Connected
Tune into your knowing. What are your reasons for desiring a change? Do you trust those will serve you and the ones you love? Will you become more by saying yes to this opportunity? What is true for you in this moment? 

4. Plan One Step at a Time 
Not ten. Not the whole plan. Just the next aligned step from a regulated place.

Remember, when you’re regulated, you will feel clear, present, resourced and neutral. Your capacity will expand and you won’t find yourself reactive. 

When you’re in balance even when you may not know yet, it feels neutral… not urgent.

When you are dysregulated, you feel rushed, overwhelmed, anxious, reactive and look externally for certainty. You hold doubt and distrust. You get stuck in what isn’t working. 

Urgency is just a signal to stop and pay attention and provide your nervous system some safety and grounding. 

So if you find yourself anxious, searching, trying to hold it all together…

Remember, this change isn’t happening to you. 
It is happening for you.

I went from feeling like I was losing something, to recognizing everything I was gaining actually fits this season of my life.

It shifted from endings to creation.
From contraction to expansion.

Check in with yourself: 

• Where in your life are you being called into something new?
• Where are you willing to be uncomfortable for the sake of your growth?
• What is this season asking you to release?
• Where are you ready to upgrade?

Your flow isn’t found by forcing clarity—it’s found by creating enough safety in your body to hear when you find it.

Keep trusting your path and allowing yourself to consciously choose what’s next for you.

With love,

Laurin