Today’s Find Your Flow message is about being an even more aligned version of yourself with each passing year. 

It was my birthday this week and I intentionally return to an intention and ritual that’s quietly shaped the way I grow, make decisions and move through each new season of life for the past 18 years. 

My hope is that today’s message offers you the same invitation–it doesn’t just need to take place on a big milestone like birthday’s or new year’s either.

Every year, usually a few months before my birthday, something shifts.

Without trying, I become more reflective. I start paying closer attention to my life. I notice where I feel energized and where I don’t. I become more aware of what feels aligned and what no longer does. It’s never because I’ve decided it’s time to evaluate my life. It simply happens, almost as if something in me knows another year is coming to a close.

Over time, I’ve learned to trust that rhythm.

I think it all goes back to a promise I made to myself years ago.

I remember being in my mid-twenties, running on a treadmill a few months before my birthday. Somewhere in the middle of that workout, a thought came into my mind that I’ve never forgotten.

“Every year from here on out, I want to become more myself.” 

At the time, I didn’t mean I wanted to look younger or somehow become a better, prettier or more fit version of myself.

I meant I wanted to become more aligned with the life I was creating. I wanted to be more intentional with how I spent my time. Even more present with the people I loved. more grateful for what I already had in my life. More at ease with and connected to myself. 

I wanted to see, learn and embrace each season of life and continue to grow. 

Looking back, I don’t think I realized how much that quiet promise would shape the years that followed.

It changed the questions I asked and the actions I took. It changed the types of vacations I went on over the years. It informed what and to whom I said yes to and so much more. 

Instead of wondering whether I’d accomplished enough by another birthday or was somehow worthy enough, I became more interested in something else.

Am I living in a way that reflects what matters most to me?

Do my daily choices support the person I’m becoming?

Where have I drifted from myself?

What is this season asking of me now?

I’ve noticed those questions change with every stage of life.

What served me in my twenties isn’t what serves me today.

Every season asks something different of us.

This year, I’ve found myself paying even closer attention to alignment.

Do my environments support the life I’m creating?

Does my calendar reflect what I say I value?

Am I creating space for the things that matter most, or am I hoping they’ll somehow fit into the life I’ve already built?

The more honestly I’ve asked those questions, the more naturally things have begun falling into place.

Not because I’ve forced them—because I’ve become more congruent.

I’ve refined what no longer fits. I’ve made decisions that feel more aligned with the life I want to create. And I’ve noticed that when my life reflects my values, so much begins to unfold with less effort.

That’s become my definition of growth.

Not becoming someone else but being willing to be even more myself.

So as another birthday approaches, I find myself returning to the same quiet promise I made all those years ago.

My invitation for you this week is to take inventory of where you are in your life. 

Whether your birthday is coming up or not, you don’t have to wait for a milestone to pause and ask yourself:

• What feels aligned? 
• What do you love about your day-to-day life? 
• What’s ready to shift? 
• Where are your relationships, daily routines or environments no longer serving you? 
• What would you love to create for yourself and your loved ones? 
• Am I living in greater alignment than I was a year ago?
• What is this season asking of me?
• What would help me become even more myself?

Sometimes the most meaningful growth isn’t adding something new.—it’s simply becoming more congruent with who you’ve been all along.

With love,

Laurin