Have you ever felt like you needed something outside of yourself to succeed? To reach a specific goal? 

I know I have. 

In fact, just the other day I had an opportunity present itself that I had to really dig deep on whether or not it was an appropriate fit at this moment in my life. 

In the past, I would’ve dove right in and said yes without hesitation. I used to be such a sucker for anything that sounded good, and anyone I perceived to have valuable information. 

I’m all for learning. I’m all for saying yes. 

Something I’ve come to value as I’ve gotten older is intention and discernment. 

I realize now I don’t have endless resources. My time is valuable and I love to use it wisely. My financial resources go mostly towards my daughter, self–care and our future. 

The energy you dive all in with is either a direct reflection of your values or it’s more of a “I should do this” “someone else can, so can I”–that’s never sustainable.  

Now, of course you can achieve and be ANYTHING you truly desire. I’m all for making anything possible, but the goal is to look back and feel actual fulfillment by your result. Not self-defeat and like there’s an endless ladder to climb. That in itself is great feedback to pay attention to. 

It truly always amazes me how everything comes back to values to help you gain your clarity. 

There’s no right or wrong. I believe there are different consequences, learnings and opportunities regardless of which path you choose. 

Had I said yes this week, I know there would have been tremendous benefits. Right now the greatest gift was in learning how to let something go and honor my no…this isn’t the time. 

It surprised me how much energy I moved through to get to my decision. I didn’t realize how strong my false sense of “needing help” was. I’m not a victim and I don’t need a savior. I love to honor my process and my timing and I’m grateful to keep finding my way forward with all the circular movements that includes, too. 

Sometimes our need or doubt that we’re doing ok where we are is so strong we want to cling to someone else, a product, a new job, a new relationship, a new city for survival. 

Mentorship is an amazing resource and it truly shortcuts so much time, energy and spending. It helps you gain clarity quickly. It helps you invest all your resources even more wisely. 

Most importantly, it’s not so much about the other person as it is their skill set to see the patterns of what’s holding you back, what’s unconscious, what’s multi-generational and what’s out of alignment. 

I’ve found for myself as a coach and mentor and hiring so many myself, it’s about their capacity, neutrality and patience to help you find and be yourself that’s the most helpful and inspiring. Way more than imparting an opinion of what you could or should do based on what’s worked for them and their definition of success. 

With such a noisy world out there, it’s more important than ever to know how to sit with yourself, to honor yourself and to hear yourself and your knowing. 

Some helpful tips: 

1. If you feel frantic, nervous or a pull of I have to do x, it’s time to sit with those emotions first vs say yes right away. 

2. Aligned decisions are made from a place of congruency, poise and knowing. 

3. Sometimes it’s ok to make a conscious choice even when you feel uncertain. You’re always doing your best and going in eyes wide open appreciating any learning is helpful. (this one isn’t always easy but worth it.) 

4. Take a deep breath and allow space and time to SLOW DOWN. REMEMBER you’re on your path and you’re not doing anything wrong. There’s no rush even when it feels like there is. 

5. You can want more and be ok without having it, too. In fact this is most useful for moving forward. Think of it like negotiations. The more attached you feel from a needy place the harder it is to be clear and effective. The more clear you are in your crown and heart chakras with knowing what you’d love and seeing it done, the easier it is to create and your being stays grounded either way. 

This is what true access to your flow is all about. 

See you next week.

xx,

Laurin

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