Today’s find your flow message is about gaining clarity on your current physical habits that are and aren’t serving you. 

Rather than feeling defeated, stressed or disassociated from your patterns…this is an opportunity to go deeply within. 

I invite you to answer these questions when you can carve out some space for yourself. 

Do you have trouble sticking to your physical and health goals during the holiday? 

Are you consistently doing what makes you feel your best? 

Do you have loving boundaries around your needs with other people? 

Do you reach for sugar or overeat more often when you’re stressed? 

Do you continuously snack instead of allowing your body to stop, pause and rest? 

Or, do you forget to nourish yourself and go on auto-pilot through your day?

Do you say yes to other people when you wish you could just say no? 

Holiday time or not, it can be easy to be reactive, tense and disconnected when we get triggered. This only furthers self-neglect and a lack of self-love. 

Reaching for immediate gratification, shutting down someone else or yourself to isolate, getting easily frustrated or snappy are all signs of a dysregulated nervous system that needs some awareness, love and attention. (I mean isolating when you’re closed down–which can even happen in a room full of people–, not when you take intentional alone time for space, healing, clarity and expansion.) 

These are the patterns to bring attention to. 

Often, this time of year brings about talk of resolutions and changes on the surface level without the stuff below that’s causing your life experiences and current reality. 

A few years ago I started using the holiday times as a quiet time to be reflective, to take a time-out and reassess what is and what isn’t working for me. 

What questions do you have about how you’d love your life to be and what it would take to create the shifts.

And, scheduling and planning for some things you can shift now. 

Sometimes clarity also looks like seeing and honoring it’s not quite your time yet. Now, maybe about your preparation so that you can know and say yes when the time comes. 

Is there anything you’re preparing for? 

What would you love to have in order to be in a position to say yes? 

What do you need to start saying yes and no to in order to create this reality? 

During Thanksgiving a few weeks ago, I was feeling overstimulated and knew I needed some time to reset. 

This is where it’s helpful to know your highest values and what really fills you up. 

Grounding and body scanning can also help you gain clarity about what you have space to say yes and no to. 

I’ll give you examples. 

There was a big buffet that started at 8 o’clock at night on Thanksgiving night. 

My dad mentioned the event and timing a few days before and I could just feel I wasn’t an easy yes. I could’ve just gone along with it, or just said no, but I decided to pause. 

I didn’t want to just be logical and think of the timing and not wanting to bring a fussy toddler to dinner. And, I can always readjust her nap and bedtime to make anything work that’s an easy yes. 

I got clear the day before. It was a no. I wasn’t just a no because of the time. Or, because I didn’t want my daughter or I to be overstimulated and a buffet of things we don’t eat. Each piece on its own are manageable…it just depends what you want. 

I really did a check in, got clear within myself, and I got a no. So I told my family, we’ll have an early dinner around 5:00. Whoever wants to come, great. I’m just gonna sit with Chloe and have something easy and a salad and just spend some time with her and get some work done that night and we’ll enjoy the day. And that was great. 

And then the next night it felt really nice to go out and she went to bed earlier that night and I got to go out alone. 

I like to stay flexible and congruent. I. I like to stay flexible and intentional with my decisions. What am I wanting to get out of this? I knew sitting at a buffet for both my daughter and I, she’s at the point where she wants to eat everything she’s looking at. She wants to touch it all and see it all. And there was nothing on the menu that I felt comfortable eating. We were also not somewhere where I could bring my own food as easily as if I were at home. 

So it was just a nicer choice that felt more freeing to be able to stay home. And once you’re clear, it’s okay. And, it’s a lot easier sometimes to communicate that with family, what your needs are–whether they agree or not. 

If I would have gone to them stressed, I don’t know if I should go or not. It’s late. They would have said, oh, we’ll help you figure out a way to make it work. 

Know, when you’re uncertain, you’re going to get bought into whatever other people want to do.

So it’s really important to take that pause to get clear within yourself. 

What is it you want to do? What is it that’s important to you? 

Over the holidays, I worked out with a trainer every day on vacation. It felt really good. So it’s easier for me now getting home to get back into my routine because I was struggling. 

Sometimes I was consistent, sometimes I wasn’t. And it’s something I would love to be more consistent with. I also know some of my goals in other areas of my life are easier and more in flow when I’m taking better care of myself. 

You don’t have to wait until 2025 starts to get more consistent or to start clearing out. 

I love to use this holiday season time to actually be really quiet and reflective instead of out and about. This actually is what helped me two years ago, open space to have Chloe. 

Last year it was a little busier than normal with a newborn and saying yes to a lot of family, getting to meet her and be with her and traveling to meet other family. And this year, I’m reprioritizing and again opening space for something new. 

Now, what is it for you? Is it intentional family time and connection? Is it time for meditation? Time to say no to some things so that you can say yes to what you want? 

Yes to clarity. Yes to just focusing on your being. Yes to some more movement. 

Going on a hike, going on a longer walk, going outside and playing in the snow with your family. Getting clear on what it is you’re going to maybe change or move forward or how you’re going to build more momentum moving forward in your business or your finances in the new year? 

Look forward to a meaningful and inspirational 2025 together. 

If you have any topics or workshops you’d like me to cover…please reply here. 

Lots of love,