Today’s find your flow message is all about how you handle discomfort, and how that affects you owning your choices and energy. 

I’ve realized the more you block feeling uncomfortable, anxious, overwhelmed…the more external help, validation and support you may seek–and the more you tend to block your own flow and energy. 

When we forget to connect to our whole selves, we lessen our flow in each chakra and take on other energy and beliefs before our own. We allow shame, judgment, fear and doubt to take over and try to control what we believe we can. 

I got hurt last week and I was able to reflect and question my natural actions and come to an even deeper understanding and gratitude for who I am, and how I choose to live in my body. I also got humbled by what I allowed into my space and how unconscious I was. When we really want to show up for ourselves, it’s beautiful and frustrating how instantaneous the feedback can be. The more you accept and embrace that the less off track or disappointed you will be. 

I’m not here to tell you what’s best for you. I’m here to offer an experience that works for me and my clients.  

First and foremost, I believe in connection before decisions, and that you always know how to guide yourself when you’re fully tuned in. 

Sometimes we need tools, support and reminders (we all do!) in order to tap into our most aligned and connected essence, then it’s easier to flow, get the learning and move ahead. 

Today, my goal is to offer up some reflective questions if you feel you could use a new approach when you get injured or feel challenged. 

• What’s your first response when you encounter a challenge? 
• How do you feel when you get sick, run down or hurt? 
• Do you tend to feel defeated, shame, annoyed or instantly go to blame others? 
• Do you rush to find a solution and make any discomfort go away? 
• Do you think it shouldn’t be there? 
• Are you quick to remove pain or take something? 
• Do you get curious about what happened? 
• Do you feel encouraged and grateful? 
• Do you look at your own energy as the source? 
• Do you assume a deeper intention that is trying to support and guide you? 
• Or, do you hold the belief it was a mistake? Or, just a clumsy moment…?
• Do you believe in accidents or feedback to serve you? 
• What is your inner dialogue? Outer dialogue? 
• How comfortable are you learning and making changes?

I’ve learned there are a lot of gifts I can receive if I’m willing to slow down and look. Now, I’m not above wanting to blame someone who I allowed into my energetic space at first, but really it was me missing my mirror and not consciously taking the time to clear out and ground into what I wanted. 

Taking the time to see what you would love, especially in times when you’re more vulnerable and susceptible is invaluable. 

For me, I really overextended myself. I kind of knew it but I thought it was ok and I’d have time to be more tuned in after I got through saying yes to a few people. We all make choices and weigh the benefits and drawbacks. What I forgot to account for is how the interactions would feel if I wasn’t connected and certain within myself. It never feels good to be judged as a parent or feel like you’re doing something wrong. The lessen here is that it isn’t personal how the other person feels about me. It’s her own model of the world and I probably won’t change it. So when I allow it to throw me off and I get frustrated rather than clear, I’m lacking grounding, in scarcity. 

I also know the exact thought I had when I tripped and broke my foot. 

Every single time I’ve been hurt or sick I can connect it to my perceptions. I’ve found the same to be true when working 1:1 and in groups. 

When you forget who you are, or consciously push down aspects of yourself to “fit in”, there will be feedback for you. Whether it happens as instantaneously or not is the only question. 

If something happens, I truly believe it’s meant to be. It’s the best we could do in that moment given the state we were in. I sometimes get frustrated with myself because I know it wasn’t “my best”, but I’ve come to learn we’re not perfect, we’re not always completely clear and connected and that’s ok. Sometimes we forget we’re supported and feel a lot of lack and judgment and get really thrown off. 

I don’t believe it had to be, because we always have a choice to ground, connect and be in our flow. But sometimes it is what it is and we can grow through experience. 

The more frequently you clear out your own energetic system, the less you will say yes when it’s not aligned. 

Also, the more you bring attention to your patterns, the more you stop and pay attention and choose to reground and reprioritize according to your highest values, the less you need intense feedback. 

I often go into self-judgment, blame and shame. It can be easy for me to not feel good enough and focus on lack rather than being fully myself. 

I personally believe if I take something when I’m hurt, I mask the pain and also have the potential to get even more hurt. I want the feedback to guide me and help me tune into my body. When it’s not an injury but I’m feeling off, I don’t choose to watch tv, or disconnect from how I’m feeling. When we go talk with friends, go out for a drink, watch tv…we shift our attention away from what’s so loudly asking for it. 

I’m also amazed at how much meditation can help every single time. I’ve been in level 10+ pain and chose to actively sit with my discomfort in a very clear way and the pain lessens instantaneously. I’ve left an hour session going from a 10 to a 2. If you just want a break or think it should just go away—you’re missing the learning. You’re perceiving a problem outside of your control and often have to re-create something else to get the learning.  

You can shift in a moment of connecting and remembering who you are. It all comes from allowing yourself space to separate and space to align each energy center. 

This is what I invite each of you to reflect on. 

Do you choose this path? 

It’s a different way of living that’s not the norm in our society but I find it so fulfilling and worthwhile. 

You don’t have to rush your challenges away. You don’t have to be scared of feeling pain or discomfort. Remember: this too shall pass. So, in the meantime what do you want to gain from it? 

The truth is we can only grow to the level we’re willing to be uncomfortable. The more comfortable you are with discomfort, the more curious you are about your habits and addictions, the more you expand your desire to build your awareness and your willingness to change and grow. 

I hope this message meets you wherever you are and starts to offer you a new perspective or a reminder when you need it. 

I’ve been wanting to connect again in community and serve you in a deeper way. 

If you’re interested in an awareness workshop with coaching and live meditations, please comment ‘YES’. If I hear from enough of you, I’ll put something together before the holidays and you’ll be added to the waitlist for first invites. If you want to share more about what you would love to gain, please feel free to add that as well. 

Thank you for being here. Please Share with anyone you know who could also use these Friday Find Your Flow messages. 

With love,

Laurin