Today’s find your flow message is a little counter-intuitive. It’s all about embracing your fears.

Often people talk about positive thinking or say “only say things to yourself that you actually want to manifest…your body is always listening.”

Here’s the truth. Yes, your body is always listening. However, the more comfortable you are with your deepest fears and patterns, the less control they have over you. Your body is listening when you’re unconsciously lying to yourself or hiding parts of yourself as well. 

I love to vision board and when I used to put all these big positive goals on there I thought I should have, I realized I felt less energy over time looking at this board— I was less inspired, less connected. 

When I started paying attention to my fears, unique values and way of doing things, I felt much more empowered and inspired. Even if similar goals and pictures were on the board, I noticed a huge shift because of my level of intention and connection to what I want. I started to ground myself knowing that I was ok no matter what. If I created that outcome or not. I didn’t have to only be ok if I was perfect or positive and this brought so much more authenticity, clarity and heart to what I wanted. 

When I started looking at what parts of me were protecting myself? What parts of me weren’t 100% sure if I wanted that outcome? What parts of me wanted to stay stuck or needy? I felt like I had so much choice and freedom. Now, I could see a vision within the reality and know what to move through. 

I’ve learned when we avoid parts of ourselves in hopes of positivity, the more we judge and dislike ourselves.

The more you embrace all of yourself, the more present, poised, loving and at ease you will be. 

When you’re able to be with your fears you’ll notice they move through you rather than get stuck or buried in different parts of your mind and body. Now you don’t have to make anything happen. 

Another benefit of knowing, acknowledging and being comfortable with your fears is the less you match energetically with others. This really helps with judging, obsessive thinking and anxiety. 

You can settle into yourself and vulnerably and lovingly show up for yourself and others.

Another tip I find so helpful and that many of my clients reflect back that’s meaningful is there is no right or wrong, good or bad choice. I invite you to start holding yourself accountable to observe the benefits and drawbacks in any given situation. While they may lead to different paths, you will gain clarity on what you’d love vs. feeling a have to. 

Allowing space for the ever-optimist in you that only wants to see the good while simultaneously witnessing your inner judger and skeptic that sees all the downsides allows you to truly be an observer.

While observing both, there’s space for your knowing rather than getting sucked into one side or the other. This is called the neutral mind. 

When you can ground yourself through exciting goals and unconscious fears…you can find your flow and clear-mindedness again.  

Here are some new questions to ask yourself:

• Is this a vision for right now or the future? 
• Are you truly ready, willing and able to do what it takes to have this right now? 
• What would it take for you to say yes? 
• Are you willing to move forward knowing some of the benefits and drawbacks? 
• Can you own your decision regardless of what other people say or do? 
• Are you wanting this outcome to avoid a past pain or match a past pleasure? 

When you acknowledge your choices with awareness, you realize it’s just a part of your path and it’s much easier to release judgments knowing there are benefits and drawbacks to any situation. Nothing gives one without the other. This is the pleasure trap that believes you can have pleasure without pain. 

Inspired visions embrace equal pains and pleasures. The goal is how much of both can you see.

This is when you can truly access flow, purpose, gratitude, your executive center and have the capacity for rest and digest rather than over-stimulation and burn out. 

I realized the more I pushed down parts of myself, the more control I’d want to have, the more I’d judge others and the less loving and comfortable I’d feel within myself. 

The biggest shift for me came when I was willing to see where I didn’t like, love or respect myself so that I could dig deep and shift into an entirely new way of being. 

It’s so much easier than we think once we shine that light it doesn’t have the same power. You truly learn how to love yourself at an entirely new level. 

I saw a quote: “My fears are the places within me that await my love.” 

What are you consciously ready to see and move through?

With love,

Laurin xx