Today’s find your flow message is all about your habits so you can reflect and re-prioritize as needed to help you be who you really are. 

A powerful, centered, reflective being that leads with love, trust and guidance (most of the time). 

As a new mom I’ve been struggling with consistency and keeping rituals. 

Have you noticed shifts in your daily routines in different seasons of your life? 

I worked for years to develop consistent habits that supported me in my life and helped me to stay in my flow and be the most connected, inspired, healthy and productive version of myself and then with a new life stage, most of them lessened significantly or just fell away. 

Being in this transition, I’ve been really hard on myself. I’ve been more reactive some days and having to short cut what really helps me drop into myself so I can be in my creative spiritual essence that thrives.  

I finally feel like I’m gaining a new foundation again that I can build upon. There have been so many ups and downs this year with gaining my footing and then feeling like I’m starting over all again. This cycle seems to repeat often. Rather than fight it or ignore it, I’m finally leaning into it and slowly incorporating my most important rituals again. 

Even though each of our stories are unique, the journey we’re all on of being where we are, accepting and loving ourselves and others while also holding space for more without getting caught up in achieving is an interesting dynamic that’s universal to all of us. And, with that there are certain ingredients that make it easier to be who you truly are. We may use different varieties or doses, but the premise is the same. 

The first place to check in with yourself is by looking at your habits. 

What are you doing consistently every day? 

Do you give yourself space for reflection, processing, journaling, self-care, sleep, meditation, nourishing foods?? 

If not, why not? 

What would have to shift in order to up-level your daily habits? 

Habits make you who you are. 

Sometimes you may think it’s what you want to have, who you think you are or even who you have been. But without the consistent actions, eventually you will shift into someone you may not even recognize. 

Who you become is defined by your rituals, your commitments, how willing you are to take accountability and be vulnerable. 

The way we become more vulnerable with ourselves is to have the courage to see and move through fears, guilt, embarrassment, disappointment and feelings of unworthiness or loneliness. It may seem counterintuitive, but the more in touch you are with all the parts of yourself, the less space they take up. 

Without setting yourself up to win, it’s challenging not to falter.

You may find yourself reactive and unable to hold the space you desire for yourself and others. 

Rather than blaming yourself and not feeling good enough, this isn’t about you personally. You aren’t a ‘bad’ or ‘undeserving’ person—you’re lacking the consistency to show up as your best self. 

I realized it’s not that I’m doing anything wrong—I’m just in a very different season of life. And, that’s ok. And, I’d also love to make some shifts in my being again to show up as my best self. 

And depending on the season of life you’re in, it may look different than it has in the past. Maybe you’re also in a transition. Maybe you’re stepping into a new version of yourself…

Before having my daughter, I’d go to a 6 am hot yoga class, journal, meditate throughout the day and had a ton of additional supportive habits. These days catching 30 minutes of sleep, doing some stretching, breath work, a 5 minute meditation and reminding myself of who I am is enough for now. Taking those extra moments to be present in whatever I’m doing adds a level of fulfillment and gratitude that helps me respond versus react and feel on edge all the time. 

Carving time out and committing to whatever fits into your life right now is a great start. 

Trust yourself and that you’re always where you need to be. We all have natural cycles of adding in more and then retreating to reorganize what’s truly necessary. 

Wherever you are in your cycle, you are building a foundation and moving forward regardless of what you may think at times. 

When you can do more—you will. And throughout all the different variations of habits, keep showing up for yourself to get curious. To love yourself the best you can. To say yes when it’s for your highest good. Times you can’t—it’s still enough to be you, gain some insights and find your flow. Learn how to love yourself even when you perceive you’re off or weren’t your “best.” There is a gift for you and anyone involved in each moment when you look. 

It’s about your intention and daily habits even more than having the perfect scenarios, isolation or long spiritual retreats to be with yourself. 

Find you in your day-to-day life as often as possible and take time for that extended you time as you can. 

Today is about taking inquiry about who you are and who you’re becoming. 

Is your trajectory matching what you say you want for your life? 

If not, where can you course correct? 

I invite you to set a timer for 12 minutes and just free write. Keep your pen moving on paper if you can.

Think about. Capture your first thoughts, streams of consciousness on the following: 

What habits have you been wanting more of? 

What would support the outcomes you’re looking for? 

Where are you content with your habits that you want to validate and continue? 

• Your environment? 
• Your finances? 
• Your physical body? 
• Emotional health? 
• Sleep? 
• Foods? 
• Career? 
• Family? Friends? Network? 
• Reactivity vs. Responsiveness?
• Spiritual fulfillment? 

Please share this with anyone in your life that could use some reminders and support as well. 

There’s nothing better than speaking the same language and having a connected conversation about what matters most to you with your community. 

Feel free to reply and share with us as well. 

With love,
Laurin