Today’s find your flow message is about surrendering. Surrendering to what is. Surrendering fears, any misplaced need, scarcity and control. And, softly surrendering and honoring your truth. 

In order to find your flow, you need to embrace what is. 

Whether that means embracing different seasons across areas of your life, challenges, heartbreak, new opportunities or times of stillness or change. The more time you spend wishing something were different, the less present you are in your life. 

It can be so easy when life feels hard or scary to want to control everything and resist change. Remember, it’s always feedback more about your internal state of being rather than life’s circumstances which are truly working to guide, protect and fulfill you. 

There is a sacredness in what is.

Sometimes you may be unconscious of the gifts that each season brings, but they’re always present when you look. The more you choose to hold yourself accountable to see it—the more flow, authenticity, trust, ease and guidance you will feel. 

Learning how to surrender is the difference between feeling like a victim versus empowering yourself as the creator of your life. 

When you empower yourself and your vision, life seems to unfold more organically. New opportunities appear, synchronicities show up, an idea you couldn’t quite complete effortlessly comes together. You are regulated, clear, graceful, loving and poised. 

But when you resist this rhythm, everything starts to feel heavy, lacking and off-track. 

Surrendering doesn’t mean settling. In fact, it’s the opposite of settling. It’s an intentional, active and conscious choice to up level your being. 

It is a deeply personal journey that requires connection, trust and flow to truly let go and open yourself up to even more of what you’d love to manifest.  

Remember you are not separate from flow — you are the flow. 

When you’re caught up in doing, making plans, staying busy and bogged down with micromanaging life’s details, you will block your deeper wisdom, knowing and those subtle gentle nudges offering you divine feedback. 

When you feel like you’re carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders, or like nothing is working out for you and you constantly feel tension and exhaustion—and, yet, you keep pushing uphill thinking you’ll get somewhere else. 

This is a signal to pause and redirect. 

To open up to yourself as spirit and allow your inner compass to help you course correct towards your authentic truth.

Surrender doesn’t mean you have it all figured out. 

Often you don’t yet have an idea of how it will come together, but you have a knowing, certainty and clarity that it will turn out even better than you could’ve imagined. 

Here’s a phrase I was telling myself when I felt really stuck in the middle of a transitional period:

“Even though I don’t know what’s next, I trust that there is a part of me that knows exactly where I’m heading. I’m willing to say yes to that which supports and nourishes me.” 

My consistency and discipline increased, my love and trust for myself expanded and from that I finally got the freedom and clarity I was ’searching’ for and eventually open to receiving.

Here are some Helpful Tips: 

1. Daily Practice: 

Affirmation: 

• I am exactly where I choose to be today. 
• I will show up for myself. 
• I trust my timing. 
• There is nothing I’m going to miss that’s meant for me.

Feel your breath expand in your chest as you repeat the above phrases.

Check-in:

• What is something I can let go of today?
• Is there a thought that’s no longer serving you? 

For me, I realized I was focusing more energy on what I didn’t want to create rather than focusing on what could work out and what I truly wanted. This simple shift changed my access to my greater knowing, creativity and purpose.

2. Tune Into Decisions:

Logic is great but it’s only one area to check in with as you make decisions. 

I like to tune into my higher self as I contemplate my timing or a decision. Is this truly aligned for me? Does this timing feel inspiring? 

Even if it takes effort it may be an easy yes and so worth following through. And sometimes, it feels easier logistically to say yes but somehow it still feels tense and not quite right. 

For example, this past weekend there were three birthday parties and a workshop I wanted to attend on Sunday. On their own, they all felt great. Having a super busy and overstimulating Sunday I knew wasn’t setting Chloe and myself up for success for the day or for our week. I chose one party that was the earliest and closest, had lunch and quality time with my daughter and then spent an hour at the hot springs to get settled for the week. This was because I tuned in and asked different questions rather than just saying ‘it’s no big deal…we’ll make it work.’ 

I knew I felt tension and a fear of missing out and desire to see some friends that live far away so it would’ve been so easy to make it work. And, I don’t believe there is truly a right or wrong here. Both were great options. Had I gone, I would’ve enjoyed a lot and my guess is had some feedback that I did too much. 

When I settled into the day I’d love to have, I had an easy thought what if I arrange a lunch with the people I wanted to see, we still have a chance to get together soon. I can go the monthly workshop in December easily when it won’t require an additional two hours of driving on a packed day. I had such a big breath of relief from choosing my ease and trusting the outcomes. 

You will not miss something that is truly meant for you. If it’s not your timing and you push it, you will often get feedback.

Also, knowing when to listen to those deeper callings is just as important. We have a super packed weekend coming up but this is for an inspiring, personal growth filled weekend fulfilling my purpose, community and connection with myself and others. That is worth the additional effort for because I’m stretching with clarity and know meaningful shifts are available when I step into that version of myself. 

Ask yourself: 

• Am I moving from fear or flow?
• Am I trusting my timing?
• Am I pushing a result?
• Am I making something work against my knowing? 
• Am I staying too comfortable and not listening to my knowing? 

If it feels tight or rushed, wait. If it feels light and accompanied by ease, inspiration, clear-mindedness and a deep breath, it’s worth saying yes.

3. Connect to Nature. 

Go outside, hike, look at the sky, be near or in water. What helps you recharge? Notice nature’s natural rhythm — waves, wind, trees, moon cycles, flowers, animals…

Nature never rushes, yet everything gets done. It’s the easiest place to get in touch with your truth as a spiritual being. 

• Where can you soften your breath even more? 
• What can you intentionally let go of? 

4. Reflection: 

Write about one area of your life where you’re trying to force an outcome.

Then ask:

“What would happen if I softened here?”

• I invite you to ask where you can soften even more within your body, your breath, your beliefs, your struggles, your desires…
• How can you show up even more present, connected and in service to your life? To others? To your vision? 

Remember, you can focus your energy on surrender anytime you feel that struggle energy creep in and visit the steps above. 

Flow comes from honoring yourself. You in your highest values and you in your desires.

With love,

Laurin